Thinking about what to write in March, I decided to share something of a very personal nature…
I struggle with decision-making. I over-think, over-analyze, and second-guess everything – small and large. I know I’m not unique. However, I would gladly separate myself from the rest of the over-thinking pack if only I knew how.
On March 6, I learned about a new book from the lifestyle blog The Simply Luxurious Life. The title is Don’t Overthink It by Anne Bogel, published March 3, 2020.
The title caught my eye and I was curious to know more. I downloaded a sample from Amazon to read on my iPad; then I purchased the Kindle format. I read the 224-pages in one sitting. I saw something of myself in all of the chapters. I realized how much precious time I waste on overthinking, over-analyzing, and second-guessing everything – from Should I purchase ballet tickets in Row G, Seats 2 and 4, or Row H, Seats 2 and 4, since they’re both available? to Do I really need to buy these flowers? to What shall I do with the rest of my life? It’s a chronic state of being known as “analysis paralysis”, trying to be perfect and afraid not to be. And I hate it.
When I finished reading the book five hours later, I reviewed the list I had made four months ago of decisions I need to make, now that I’m on my own. I picked one decision; one I could make on a Saturday without help from an outside source. I fixed a Campari with bitters over ice. I took action. The decision: reorganize one closet with Bill’s clothes and stay with it until finished.
Maybe it was the book, maybe it was the Campari
At the end of the day when I had completed sorting out the contents of one closet, what was going to be a long and solitary weekend turned out to be a rather uplifting and productive one. Perhaps I made a mistake or two and my closet sorting wasn’t total perfectionism, but at least I did something. I went from analysis paralysis to taking action. It felt good. And I’m not going to second-guess the choices I made. I think.
If any of what I’ve written strikes a chord with you, do check out Don’t Overthink It. And please leave me a comment… should you decide to.
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